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Change is a constant in life, so why should a book remain static? Upgrading Our Lives - Infinite Book of Infinite Possibilities is a dynamic guide dedicated to helping you reach your best version by embracing your authentic self every single day. This book doesn’t just offer timeless wisdom; it evolves with you.

In a world filled with chaos, this book offers practical tools and techniques, including breathwork, mindfulness practices and other methods, all designed to enhance your happiness, maintain calmness and clear the path to your desires. It provides everything you need to navigate modern life with grace and balance.

To support this continuous growth, the book features a follow-up blog that regularly updates its content, ensuring that you always have access to the latest insights and practices. Additionally, the blog includes a range of multimedia resources, such as guided meditations, audio recordings and links to further scientific explanations, designed to enrich your journey toward self-improvement.

As the author Selva says, “As you keep reading, I will keep writing.” Whether through new techniques, updated guidance or fresh perspectives, Upgrading Our Lives and its accompanying blog are committed to helping you evolve and thrive amidst the complexities of modern life.

How to Use This Book

This book is designed to guide you towards becoming your authentic self - the best version of yourself, feeling happy, joyful and content with life.

Take your time with each chapter, incorporating the tools shared into your life. 

Additionally, you can visit this blog for further practices, updates on special workshops and information on private sessions.

Astrological Insights with Regular Updates

Astrological Insights for Dec 30 – Jan 5

This week marks a transformative transition into the New Year, with celestial movements offering opportunities for growth, planning and balance. 

The lingering energy of Mercury retrograde officially clears on January 5, bringing a sense of clarity and momentum to communication and decision-making. Venus and Jupiter form harmonious aspects, amplifying themes of abundance, connection, and optimism. Meanwhile, the Moon's phases guide us to reflect, release, and set powerful intentions for the year ahead.

Spending the early days of the New Year reflecting on what, who, and which kinds of energies you wish to welcome into your life can be a meaningful practice. To balance Saturn’s influence, acts of kindness and generosity are highly encouraged. 

Waiting until January 5 - or even the following week - for major new beginnings is a wise choice. The most auspicious date in January is January 20. But still, if you have no hurry, wait until February.

If you feel compelled to start something new during this period, December 31 can be a favorable option.

Limiting Beliefs

 

A great time for getting rid of everything that doesn't serve us, including our limiting beliefs, is the Full Moon.

Here's a ritual you can perform:

Energetic Anti-Aging & More

 

We had a delightful introductory meeting with the wonderful hospitality of Bioritm Beauty Institute.

As a client of Bioritm, which has a 36-year history, I won’t bother with the exact number of years—like the African tribes who count as 1, 2, 3, and then say “many,” let me just say I’ve been a client for many years. 😊

In the lovely atmosphere created by the owners, Ayşegül and Güzin, we discussed many topics. I introduced Access Bars, a technique I love and both teach and practice. We meditated together, enjoyed food and drinks, and later demonstrated an Anti-Aging application while balancing everyone’s energy.

As a token of appreciation, we gifted each participant a Marteniçka wish bracelet to be used on March 1st, along with a Runic symbol for abundance and prosperity to place in their wallets.

Thank you to everyone who made this day unforgettable with their energy and presence! 

Cutting Energetic Connections to People, Situations or Emotions

 

Every person we interact with, even someone who merely glances at us on the street, creates an energetic connection with us which remain stored in our inner data bank, like a memory. These connections can either dissipate through neglect or strengthen with attention. 

Trauma Meditation

In this guided trauma meditation, we focus on releasing the emotional weight of past events and navigate the challenges of current disturbing situations with calm and clarity.

By doing this, we gently revisit traumatic experiences, rewrite the narrative and find peace within our body and mind. 

Whether you are dealing with past echoes or facing present-day challenges , this meditation is designed to help you reconnect with your inner strength and resilience.

Our Children - Our Child Self

It's well-established that the energies and frequencies in our environment significantly impact our well-being and sense of calm. Additionally, every parent and caregiver knows from experience that babies are soothed when they are picked up, gently rocked and carried.

Research published in Current Biology on April 18, 2013, confirms that babies universally calm down when carried, a response seen in both human infants and mouse pups. This automatic calming mechanism is deeply rooted in our evolutionary biology, helping ensure the survival of our species by soothing crying when held.

For parents, understanding this natural response can prevent the misinterpretation of crying as manipulation, which challenges outdated parenting strategies like "cry it out."

For those of us who were raised with such methods, engaging in "Healing Our Child-Self" work can be beneficial.

This should not be confused with Inner Child work. The concept of the inner child refers to the childlike aspect within our unconscious mind, a sub-personality that can become prominent when we face challenges.

Somatics & Butterfly Wings

To begin your day with energy and a calm mind, make it a habit to practice a somatic routine right after waking up. While still in bed, focus on regulating your nervous system through conscious breathing, gentle cat-like stretches, and soothing somatic exercises.

Somatic practices involve tuning into your body's sensations and experiences to enhance self-awareness and reduce stress. 

Tapping Solutions

This routine is intended to guide us into a neutral mental state, helping us release any heightened emotions or stress. By calming our minds and centering our thoughts, we can approach situations - whether a discussion, a decision or a reaction to a stressful event - with clarity and composure, ensuring our responses are thoughtful and balanced.

Physiological Sigh

The Physiological Sigh is a breathing technique popularized by neuroscientist Dr. Andrew Huberman. 

It mimics the natural breathing pattern our body uses during sleep or or after sobbing when it needs to lower the carbon dioxide levels in the bloodstream. This often happens under stress or when the amount of inhaled oxygen is insufficient. To perform the physiological sigh most effectively, inhale deeply through your nose until your lungs are full, then take a second, quicker breath without exhaling the first one. 

Box Breathing

Box breathing, also known as square breathing, is a simple yet effective breathing exercise that helps calm the mind, reduce stress and enhance focus. It involves inhaling, holding the breath, exhaling, and holding again, each for an equal count of time, typically 4 seconds. You can check your optimal count with a simple Carbon Dioxide Tolerance Test and adjust accordingly, staying within your comfort level.

Breathwork

Breathwork is a practice that involves consciously controlling your breathing patterns to promote physical, mental, and emotional well-being. By focusing on how we inhale and exhale, we can influence our nervous system, helping to either energize the body or calm it down.

Breathwork has a profound impact on the body’s stress response, enabling you to shift from a heightened state of alertness to a more relaxed state, or vice versa, depending on the type of breathing technique used. It's a simple yet powerful tool that can be incorporated into daily routines to reduce anxiety, improve focus, increase energy, and bring balance to your overall system.

The techniques we’ll practice—such as Ha breath, Box Breathing, and long inhales or exhales—are designed to regulate your nervous system. Ha breath helps release tension and ground energy, Box Breath balances and calms the mind, and specific breathing rhythms (long inhales for alertness and long exhales for calming) will help you adjust your state depending on your needs. Through these practices, you can build a more resilient and mindful relationship with your breath, enhancing both your physical and emotional health.

Ha Breath

It's a powerful breathwork practice often used in energy work, healing practices and spiritual traditions such as Hawaiian Huna. 

It focuses on connecting with the life force energy - prana or mana - and enhancing vitality.

Ha Breath & Meditation

Inner Child Work

Inner Child: The inner child represents the emotional and psychological aspects of ourselves that carry the experiences, needs and feelings from our early years. It's often connected to our reactions, dreams and core beliefs formed in childhood.

Child Self: The child self represents who we were during our early years. It includes our authentic personality traits, behaviors and the experiences we had as children. This aspect of ourselves reflects how we interacted with the world and formed our sense of identity during those formative years.

Guided Meditation Sample

Meditations

 

Grounding

Grounding practices help to reconnect you with the present moment and nature providing a state of stability and calm. Here are some examples and a couple of guided meditations:

Self Love

This meditation is designed to guide you on a journey of deep compassion and acceptance, reconnecting with both your younger and present selves.

Through gentle visualization and affirmations, you will embrace every version of yourself, offering love, kindness and reassurance.

Mudras

Mudras are hand gestures often used in yoga and meditation to direct energy and create specific states of mind. Each mudra has its unique significance and effect on the body and mind. As shown in the video below here are explanations of a few:

Energetic Anti-Aging & Beyond Meeting

 

We had a delightful introductory meeting with Bioritm Beauty Institute, hosted wonderfully by them.

Bioritm has a 36-year history, and I have been a customer for – let's just say "many" years, like the African natives who simply say "many" after 1, 2, 3.

In the beautiful setting prepared by the owners, Ayşegül and Güzin sisters, we discussed many things; I talked about Access Bars, which I love and am an instructor and practitioner of; we meditated; we ate and drank, and afterwards, we did a demo of the Anti-Aging treatment and balanced everyone's energy.

Frequencies

 Calming and resting frequencies often fall within specific ranges that are believed to have soothing effects on the mind and body. Here are some commonly recommended frequencies:

Sleep & Our Dreams

To understand why we sleep and why we dream, it helps to start with the basic purpose of these states. Sleep is vital for restoring both the mind and body, playing a crucial role in memory consolidation, emotional regulation, immune support and cellular repair. Dreaming, particularly during REM sleep, is thought to be part of this process, potentially helping the brain sort through emotions, process recent experiences, and, intriguingly, explore scenarios that stretch beyond our waking reality.

Access to Being You

 

Manifestation requires action. While intention and visualization are crucial, tangible steps are necessary to realize your goals. This is where the practice of Access Consciousness Questions can be highly beneficial.

(For deeper insight, you can request a private session or attend an Access class.)

These questions help you tap into your inner wisdom and open up possibilities you might not have considered. Start by asking yourself, "What would it take for me to achieve this goal with joy and ease?" This question not only focuses your mind on the desired outcome but also emphasizes a positive and effortless path to achieving it.

Empowering questions could start with phrases like "What would it take...?" or "How does it get any better than this?" These questions bypass the mind's tendency to seek conclusions and instead, invite you to tap into a realm of infinite possibilities. Below are some classical Access Consciousness Questions:

Choice & Obstacles

 

In this guided meditation, we explore the choices we've made and the obstacles we encountered along our journey. 

By grounding ourselves in the present and connecting with our inner wisdom, we release past fears and doubts, inviting clarity and empowerment. 

As we do so, our perspective shifts, allowing us to see obstacles as opportunities for growth, helping us break through limitations and align with our highest potential.

Let's Do This - Perfect Posture & Mood

 

Journaling

 

Online Sessions

 

Forgiving - Claim Your Energy & Power Back In The Here & Now

Releasing Anger

Meditation To Claim Your Energy & Power Back

Forgiving and releasing the past is essential if we want to create a positive present and future. When we dwell on past hurts—whether it’s things that didn’t work out, wrongs done by others, or disappointments we’ve faced—a part of our energy remains stuck in those moments. This keeps us from accessing the full power of our being, the energy we need to manifest the future we truly desire. Remember, you are not doing a favor for the other person or situation when you forgive, and you are not saying that what happened was okay. You are freeing yourself from the burden of the past and reclaiming your energy, empowering yourself to fully embrace the present and create the life you envision.

Letting Go and Forgiveness Meditation Routine:

Yin Yang

Through this practice, you will connect with the gentle, soothing energy of the moon, allowing you to restore balance, promote tranquility and nurture a deep sense of inner peace. Whether you are looking to calm an overactive mind or restore equilibrium to your energy, this meditation will help you cultivate the nurturing qualities of Yin.

Yin Energy Meditation :
This Yin Energy Meditation is designed to help you connect with and enhance the Yin energy within your body, promoting balance and tranquility. As you align with the cool, calming energies of the moon, this practice helps bring harmony to both body and mind. Perfect for those seeking to balance excess Yang energy, this meditation can aid in reducing stress, soothing emotions, and creating a deep sense of inner peace. Use this practice whenever you need to restore equilibrium and embrace the nurturing, receptive qualities of Yin energy

Yin Meditation

Sound Healing & Mantras

Sound healing is a powerful way to realign and balance the energy within our bodies, and one of the most accessible ways to tap into its benefits is through the use of mantras. In many ancient traditions, specific sounds have been associated with different energy centers, or chakras, within the body. When these sounds are intoned or chanted, they create vibrations that can help unblock stagnant energy, promote healing, and restore balance.

To balance and align your chakras, you can use specific mantras while focusing on different aspects of your life. Each chakra is associated with a unique sound and intention that helps to activate and harmonize the energy in that area of your body. Here's a guide to working with each chakra and its corresponding mantra: